by Dr Dolores Fazzino, DNP, Nurse Practitioner, Medical Intuitive, Energy Whisperer
Did you know that we are unable to love another person if we do not love ourselves first? There is a reason that airlines say, “In case of a drop in cabin pressure, place your oxygen mask on your face first and then help and assist others with theirs.” They realized that we tend to want to care for others first and put ourselves second or not even on the list of things to do.
Too often we tend to look outside ourselves to validate our existence, our value and even our self-worth. We have detached ourselves from who we are individually in the name of fitting in, being accepted, and worthy. In fact, we have given our true innate personal power away to something outside of ourselves instead of coming within, connecting with, and embracing the very thing that will establish a foundation for a great relationship with our self: our inner wisdom and knowledge.
I believe that codependence is rampant because many of us were taught as youngsters to put others before ourselves or take care of others first and our needs were not important or necessary. And if we thought of putting ourselves first, we were described as being “selfish”. Does this sound familiar? I thought so.
Worry not… by loving yourself first, you are not being selfish! It is mandatory for your overall wellbeing and spiritual wellness, and of course, self-care!
You are learning one of the foundational keys to becoming your own best friend and to create a relationship with yourself.
When you take care of yourself first, you give to others from the overflow that you have created for yourself instead of running on empty and depleting yourself, then becoming resentful, angry, and crabby.
What are you doing to create more self-love for yourself?
Here are some practical ways to have more self-love in your life:
- Schedule some time with yourself to do whatever you would like to do.
- Get off the grid… no cell phones, no email, no computer, or anything electronic for an hour.
- Read that book you have been meaning to read.
- Take that one-hour-long bath.
- Schedule yourself a spa day for the full “Monty”: mani, pedi, massage, and facial
- Or even do nothing, stay in your pajamas all day, and binge on Netflix, my personal favorite!
- Learn to say “NO” without guilt, or feeling ashamed, and absolutely mean it! Do the things that you desire to do, instead of doing things from obligation.
- This is about boundaries and honoring them, in particular, yours!
- If guilt and shame come up when you set boundaries, lovingly explore why this is so. No beating yourself up. A deeper dive into why this is so may be a pivotal healing moment for yourself, allowing you to stand in your personal power.
- Start a mindful activity.
- This can be anything that allows you to be in the present moment – being in nature, working on a hobby, or craft, walking your pet, etc.
- My favorite is to sit in silence and go within. It allows me to reintegrate into my body, to bring me into the present moment. Surprisingly, I seem to get more done in a shorter amount of time after my mindful activity.
Remember you are an amazing person, worthy of having everything you choose to have and be. It’s really about creating an extraordinary relationship with yourself. The longest relationship you will have in your life is the one you have with yourself. Make it extraordinary!
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Dr. Dolores Fazzino
Dr. Dolores Fazzino, a Nurse Practitioner, Medical Intuitive, Author, Speaker, and Podcast Host, with over 45 years of experience in the healthcare industry, has assisted with over 20,000 surgical procedures. Highly intuitive since childhood, she is a master energy healer, medical intuitive, and visionary and has always been on the cutting edge of things to come.
Being called an Energy Whisperer, Dr. Dolores works with her clients by unraveling the energetic discord in her client’s life allowing them to “heal in ways they never thought possible” by integrating and returning balance and alignment to the emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, and dimensional aspects of themselves to create lasting health and true wellness.
As a fellow empath, intuitive, and highly sensitive person, Dr. Dolores has created a thriving life and assists others to step into their personal power, trust their intuition, and become their own best friend.
She has authored several best-selling books. Her latest, Your Amazing Itty Bitty® Healing in Ways You Never Thought Possible Book: 15 Key Steps to Manifesting True Health and Lasting Wellness, is available on Amazon.
Listen to her TV, Radio, and Podcast Show: The Dr Dolores Show on Inspired Choices Network.
